The Nightlife I Remember There was a time when going to the club did not feel like preparing for a small financial emergency. Women could often get in free before a certain hour, while men paid a reasonable cover at the door. A woman might spend her first money of the night on a drink
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What We Are Really Fighting About I have lived long enough to understand that most arguments are not really about what started them. Two people can fuss about dirty dishes, laundry on the floor, coming home late, or spending too much time on the phone. But beneath those everyday arguments, there may be deeper problems
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What Alignment Means to Me The older I get, the more I understand that love by itself does not guarantee a healthy relationship. Two people can deeply love each other and still not be a good match for one another. What makes the difference is alignment, because alignment determines whether two lives can actually move
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The Idea of the “Dark Empath” I had heard people talk about empaths, and Lord knows I had heard plenty about narcissists. Then I came across another term that caught my attention: the “dark empath.” At first, it sounded like a person who understood other people’s feelings but used that understanding in the wrong way.
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Quiet Should Never Be Confused With Weakness I heard a saying that stopped me for a minute: “Just because I’m laid-back doesn’t mean I won’t lean forward.” There is a whole lot of wisdom packed inside those few words. Some people have a habit of mistaking a calm personality for weakness. They see somebody who
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A Story That Stayed With Me There is an old saying that tells us to be careful what we wish for because we just might get it. I have always thought there was wisdom buried inside those few words. Sometimes we want something so badly that we never stop to consider what possessing it might
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When Interest Starts Feeling Like a Test I have learned that dating can become confusing when one person is interested while the other person is still trying to decide what they feel. Sometimes a woman may pull back, communicate less, or create some distance while she sorts through her emotions. A man on the receiving
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When Suspicion Takes Over the Relationship I have learned that sometimes people become afraid you are going to do exactly what they are already doing to you. At first, their questions may sound innocent enough because everybody in a relationship needs reassurance from time to time. They ask about an old girlfriend, a coworker, a
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Learning the Difference Between Approval and Purpose The older I get, the less I care about measuring my life by how many people agree with me or applaud what I have to say. There was probably a time when approval carried more weight because most of us enjoy knowing that people appreciate what we are
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The Story Behind the Word “Spirits” I have heard liquor called “spirits” for as long as I can remember, and somebody eventually gave that old word a much darker explanation. The claim was that alcohol is called spirits because drinking allows spiritual beings to enter a person’s body and temporarily take control. That explanation can
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