Marriage & Relationships

I Can Understand Both Sides This is one of those relationship conversations where I can understand both people even when their feelings seem to contradict each other. I understand why a man might want a paternity test. A woman experiences pregnancy in a way a man never can because she knows biologically that the child

Showing Up as Your Real Self One of the hardest things to do in any relationship is show up as your real self. Many of us want intimacy, but we also want protection from disappointment, rejection, conflict, and pain. So we begin editing ourselves. We hold back what we really feel. We soften truths that

Some People Never Change the Temperature I have always been fascinated by people who can talk to anybody. They can have a real conversation with the Uber driver, the woman behind the counter, or the man fixing the elevator. They can speak just as comfortably with the CEO sitting across from them at dinner. Somehow

First Impressions Happen Fast People can begin forming opinions about us almost immediately. Sometimes It often happens before we have even finished introducing ourselves. People notice how we enter a room, carry ourselves, and what we are wearing. They also notice whether we make eye contact, how our voice sounds, and whether our expression seems

Age Does Matter, But Not the Way People Think People love to say that age is just a number, but I have lived long enough to know that age can matter in a relationship. It can affect health, energy, retirement plans, children, finances, sexuality, and the season of life each person is living in. A

The Part We Often Miss When people get into disagreements, there is one big thing we tend to miss, and that is perspective. We become so focused on defending our position that we forget the other person is looking at the same situation through a different set of eyes. There is an old idea that

When Somebody Plays Both Sides Listen to me, because this is one of those lessons that can hit your spirit if you have lived long enough to recognize it. One of the most dangerous people in your life is not always the person who openly dislikes you. Sometimes it is the person who claims to

Seeing Through Somebody Else’s Eyes One of the hardest things to do during disagreement is to genuinely try to see the situation from the other person’s perspective. A lot of people hear that advice and immediately think it means giving in, but that is not what I am talking about at all. Listening to somebody