The Story Many of Us Have Heard I have something I want to straighten out because I have heard this story repeated for years. Somebody will say that white people are called Caucasian because white Europeans originally came from the Caucasus Mountains. At first, that explanation sounds perfectly logical. Caucasian sounds like Caucasus, so case
Why White People Were Called Caucasian Read More »
Staying Is Not Always the Smartest Move People have been told for years that staying with one employer proves loyalty and that moving too often makes you look unstable. Sometimes that is true. But I have also seen people stay in the same job for years, doing more work, taking on more responsibility, and still
Job Hopping Is Not Always a Career Mistake Read More »
The Groove That Refused to Die I love stories like this because sometimes music takes a life of its own and travels farther than the person who created it ever imagined. In 1981, Rick James released “Super Freak,” a song with a bass line that is almost instantly recognizable. It was funky, playful, unusual, and
One Bass Line, Two Eras: Rick James, MC Hammer, and the Grammy They Shared Read More »
David Was Anointed for a Throne David was not called to become a pastor, priest, or preacher. He was anointed by Samuel to become king. That distinction matters because sometimes we have made the mistake of assuming that every spiritual calling must eventually look like church work. David’s anointing was spiritual, but his assignment was
Your Calling May Not Look Like a Pulpit Read More »
Some People Never Change the Temperature I have always been fascinated by people who can talk to anybody. They can have a real conversation with the Uber driver, the woman behind the counter, or the man fixing the elevator. They can speak just as comfortably with the CEO sitting across from them at dinner. Somehow
The People Who Can Talk to Anybody Read More »
First Impressions Happen Fast People can begin forming opinions about us almost immediately. Sometimes It often happens before we have even finished introducing ourselves. People notice how we enter a room, carry ourselves, and what we are wearing. They also notice whether we make eye contact, how our voice sounds, and whether our expression seems
What People May Decide About You Before You Say Much Read More »
Age Does Matter, But Not the Way People Think People love to say that age is just a number, but I have lived long enough to know that age can matter in a relationship. It can affect health, energy, retirement plans, children, finances, sexuality, and the season of life each person is living in. A
The Perfect Age Gap: Is There Really One? Read More »
What Gabrielle Union Actually Said Gabrielle Union once said something about her first marriage that made me think differently about money and marriage. It also made me question the kind of power people sometimes believe money gives them in a relationship. She was married to former NFL player Chris Howard from 2001 until their divorce
When Money Becomes Power in a Relationship Read More »
Qualified Does Not Always Mean Chosen You can be fully qualified for a job inside your own company and still never get a fair shot at it. That is one of those workplace realities people usually learn after they have been around long enough to see how organizations actually operate. On paper, internal hiring can
Sometimes the Conversation Gets There Before You Do Read More »
The Story Most of Us Were Told Most of us grew up hearing the same explanation for summer vacation. Schools closed for several months because farm families needed their children home to work the fields. It sounds reasonable, and I believed some version of it for years because it has been repeated so often that
Who Really Gave America Summer Vacation? Read More »