What Do We Mean When We Say It Did Not Work? When we do not get the result we wanted, we often assume that what we tried did not work. A man approaches a woman directly, tells her he is interested, and she turns him down. He walks away saying being direct did not work.
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A Sentence That Made Me Think I once heard someone say, “If your identity depends on having somebody beneath you, you were never standing very tall in the first place.” That thought stayed with me. It sounded simple at first, but the longer I sat with it, the deeper it became. Some people can only
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When Gossip Gets There Before We Do I have come to realize that sometimes we meet people long before we ever shake their hand. Somebody tells us a story about them, and that story gets planted in our mind before we have a chance to form our own opinion. We hear that he is jealous,
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Attraction Has to Begin Somewhere One thing I have learned about relationships is that attraction cannot be forced simply because we want somebody to feel what we feel. We can present ourselves well, start a conversation, show interest, and give another person an opportunity to know us. What we cannot do is manufacture genuine desire
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A Word That Made Me Stop and Think Not long ago, I heard a young Black brother talking about his years of training in an old Southern Chinese martial arts tradition, and something he said stayed with me. He explained that when he began training as a child, his teachers did more than show him
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When Something Inside Us Knows Most of us have had moments when something inside us seemed to know something before we could explain it. We may suddenly feel the need to call somebody, take another road, accept an opportunity, or simply leave something alone. Sometimes that feeling shows up as tightness in the stomach or
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Looking for Something Deeper I have come to understand mysticism as the search for something deeper than what we can see with our eyes or touch with our hands. Human beings have been asking the same big questions for thousands of years. Who are we, why are we here, and what are we supposed to
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What Raising Our Vibration Really Means I have heard people talk about “raising your vibration” as though every thought and emotion carries a spiritual frequency. The idea of raising our vibration means moving away from fear, anger, resentment, and confusion toward greater peace, gratitude, compassion, and purpose. It is about becoming more aware of what
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Stretching Is More Than Touching Your Toes Most of us learned stretching in a pretty simple way. We reached for our toes, pulled an arm across our chest, held the position for a few seconds, and moved on. There is nothing wrong with that kind of stretching, and it can still be useful. But our
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The House We Worked a Lifetime to Own For many of us, paying off a home represents a lifetime of work, sacrifice, and discipline. By retirement, that house may also be the largest thing we expect to leave behind for our family. So it can come as a shock to learn that long-term nursing-home care
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