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What Would Make Her Smile Today? I heard somebody ask a simple question that made me think about how easily relationships can become complicated: what is one thing a man can do today to make his partner happier? We spend so much time talking about communication, attraction, commitment, intimacy, and the serious parts of relationships

When the Internet Becomes the Dating Coach I have noticed that dating advice has become almost impossible to escape because everybody with a telephone can now become an expert. Men tell other men exactly how women supposedly think, and women tell other women exactly how men supposedly behave. Some of the advice comes from genuine

When Kindness Reaches Its Limit I have often wondered what happens when the kindest person in the room finally reaches the point where enough is enough. We sometimes assume patient people possess an unlimited supply of patience because they have tolerated so much already. They listen, forgive, make allowances, smooth over disagreements, and give people

A Sentence Worth Hearing Twice I once heard someone say, “Think about how hard it is to change yourself, and you will understand how hard it is to change someone else.” That statement caught my attention because I knew exactly what they meant. I wish I had said it myself because there is a whole

Becoming Our Best Self I have heard people say that becoming the best version of yourself will help you attract the kind of person you want, and there is some truth in that. Taking care of yourself can make you more confident, healthier, interesting, financially stable, and comfortable in your own skin. People notice those

We Never Listen With Empty Ears I came across an idea from philosopher Hans-Georg Gadamer that made me think differently about what it means to truly listen to somebody. His work suggests that we never approach understanding with a completely empty mind because we always bring some history with us. We carry previous conversations, disappointments,

The Conversation Beyond Words The older I get, the more I realize that some of our strongest messages never come out of our mouths. We can say everything is fine while our face tells somebody that nothing is fine at all. We can say we are listening while looking at our telephone, folding our arms,