What Makes Somebody Catch Our Eye I have always found it interesting how one person can walk into a room and immediately catch somebody’s attention while another person barely gets noticed. Attraction can feel mysterious because we do not always consciously understand what made us look twice. Sometimes it is somebody’s face, sometimes their body,
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Love Can Make Us Feel Vulnerable I understand the idea that when a man truly loves a woman, he becomes more aware of what he could lose. Love has a way of making even a confident person feel vulnerable because somebody else suddenly matters enough to hurt you. A man may know how other men
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The Argument Is Not Always the Real Argument The older I get, the more I realize that people are not always arguing about what they claim they are arguing about. The disagreement may start over politics, dirty dishes, money, somebody leaving the milk out, or something said on the evening news. Before long, two people
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The Love Hidden in Consideration The older I get, the more I believe one of the highest forms of love is consideration. Sacrifice might rank a little higher, but that is a conversation for another day. I am talking about those small moments when somebody shows you that you crossed their mind without asking for
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What Rubs Off on Us There is an old saying that if you sit in a fish market long enough, sooner or later you are going to smell like fish. Sit in a perfume shop, and chances are some of that sweet fragrance will follow you out the door. I have come to understand that
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When God Keeps Saying Wait There have been seasons in my life when I felt ready for something, yet nothing seemed to move. I prayed for the opportunity, believed I was prepared, and wondered why the answer kept looking like “wait.” That waiting can wear on you because eventually you start wondering whether God heard
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Every Piece of Writing Has a Reason One thing I have learned about writing is that nobody truly writes into an empty space for no reason at all. Something usually happened before the first sentence appeared on the page. Somebody made a claim, asked a question, created a problem, challenged an idea, or left something
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The Feelings We Learn to Hide Throughout my life, I have learned that feelings do not always arrive when it is convenient for me to deal with them. Pain can show up when I have responsibilities waiting, anger can rise when I need to remain composed, and grief can appear when everybody expects me to
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Matching Energy Is Not Always Strength I have noticed that some of us believe the only way to deal with a difficult person is to become difficult ourselves. Somebody raises their voice, so we raise ours. Somebody gets disrespectful, and we decide they need to see that we can be disrespectful too. Somebody brings hostility
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The Man Who Becomes Easy to Overlook I have learned that the easiest man to take for granted can sometimes become the hardest man to replace. It happens because consistency has a way of making something valuable begin to look ordinary. A good man calls when he says he will call, shows up when he
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