Breakdown:

1. Introduction – The Mask of Composure:
   • Introduction to the idea that we often present a polished, agreeable version of ourselves through “impression management.”
   • Society expects us to appear calm and measured, so we wear this mask to meet those expectations.
2. The Mask vs. The Real You:
   • Over time, the mask can feel like our true identity, but when stress, pressure, or conflict arise, the mask slips.
   • The real challenge lies in what emerges during adversity—emotions, bad habits, and defensive reactions that we often hide.
3. The Dual Nature of the Self:
   • Discussion on the light side and dark side within each of us.
   • Calmness and composure are valuable traits, but they don’t represent the full picture of who we are, especially under pressure.
4. Pressure as a Revealer of Character:
   • When life gets hard, your true self surfaces—emotions, judgments, and fears all come into play.
   • Conflict often exposes sides of us we may not want to acknowledge, making it difficult to manage disagreements and stressful situations.
5. Understanding the Complete Self:
   • Many people don’t have a deep understanding of their full selves, especially under stress.
   • Research shows that only 10-15% of people possess true self-awareness, meaning most people don’t fully know how they react under pressure.
6. The Importance of Self-Awareness in Conflict:
   • Self-awareness helps in navigating conflict by acknowledging both calm and reactive sides of yourself.
   • Knowing how you behave when things go wrong is crucial for personal growth and effective conflict management.
7. Conclusion – Embrace Both Sides of Yourself:
   • Emphasizing the need to embrace and understand both the calm and pressured versions of yourself.
   • True self-awareness comes from recognizing how you behave in adversity, not just when things are easy.