You Can’t Build with Someone Who’s Still Hiding Debris

A person that knows that you’re out of their league… but their ego still makes them think they can deal with you.”

This hits the biblical concept of being equally yoked—but flips it into real-world scenarios. It’s not just about belief systems, it’s about being on the same emotional, spiritual, financial, and moral level.

When you’re paired with someone who’s not doing their inner work, who’s still tangled up in mess—you’re not in a partnership. You’re pulling dead weight.

Key Insight:
It’s not that you’re “better” — you’re just in a different season. They’re still unwrapping drama while you’re packing for purpose.

Soul-Level Truths

🕳️ 1. They’re Not Partnering—They’re Hiding

“They’ll lock in with you, knowing they have nothing to bring… but lip service.”

Why?
Because you’re safe. Your life has structure. Peace. Clarity.
They see that and say:
“If I can just attach myself to you, I don’t have to face me.”

This ain’t about love—it’s about survival.
They hide inside your progress like a squatter inside a clean house.
They don’t want partnership.
They want shelter—from their own mess.

🧠 2. Ego Will Have Them Stay—But Ego Won’t Let Them Grow

“Their ego will still enforce that they can deal with you.”

Let’s be clear:
An unequally yoked partner isn’t confused.
They know you’re ahead. They know you’re clean. They know you move with order.

But their ego won’t let them admit it.
So instead of saying,

“Let me elevate to your level,”
they silently plot ways to drag you down to theirs.
Because in their world, control > growth.

They’ll:

Nitpick your peace.
Mock your structure.
Call your discipline “boring.”
Weaponize your kindness. All to feel powerful again.

🔥 3. Resentment is Not a Side Effect—It’s the Engine

“The entire time… they resent you and treat you like garbage.”

Let’s make this plain:
Resentment is the currency of the unequally yoked.

It shows up in subtle sabotage:

They delay your dreams.
They downplay your achievements.
They flirt with chaos just to shake your peace.

Why?

Because every time you shine, they feel exposed.

They resent you for being healed while they’re still bleeding.
They resent that you had the courage to deal with your demons while they made theirs roommates.
They resent that your life has rhythm, while theirs is all static.

🧬 4. Spiritual Alignment Ain’t Just About Beliefs—It’s About Readiness

“Make sure you’re on the same playing field.”

You can pray together, quote scripture together, read Eckhart Tolle together.
But if they:

Haven’t cut soul ties,
Still flirt with toxic exes,
Keep emotional backdoors open…

Then you’re not aligned.
You’re connected. But not in agreement.

That’s the difference between:

A covenant and a contract.
A spiritual partner and a spiritual parasite.

They’re still looking for rescue. You’re looking for reciprocity.

🧠 5. Emotional Vampires Dress Like Soulmates

Let’s talk trauma bonding.

A person who’s unequally yoked might feel like home—but only because their chaos matches your old wounds.
You confuse intensity with intimacy.
You call drama passion.
You think struggle love means it’s real.

But it’s just a trauma loop.

They’re not your soulmate.
They’re your shadowmate.

They keep you circling the same mountain.
And when you finally get tired of walking in circles—you call it “growth,” and they call it “abandonment.”

🛡️ The Remedy: Equally Yoked Ain’t About Status—It’s About Soul Posture

What makes someone equally yoked?

Not how much money they make.
Not how fine they look.
Not how good they sound on paper.

It’s:

Are they emotionally free?
Are they accountable for their past?
Are they at peace with themselves?
Are they ready to build with clear hands—not messy motives?

If not?

It’s not judgment.
It’s self-preservation.

🪞 One Last Soul Check

“Do they want you—or do they want what your healing makes them feel like they could be?”

If it’s the latter, you’re not with a partner.
You’re with a mirror they’re trying to shatter.