Breakdown:

1. Trauma and Manipulation: Both partners in a relationship often bring unresolved trauma into the dynamic, which leads to destructive behaviors. The woman’s trauma may make her manipulative, while the man’s trauma makes him more susceptible to manipulation.
2. Promiscuity and Attraction: The woman’s trauma might manifest in promiscuous behavior or dressing provocatively, while the man’s trauma leads him to be attracted to such behavior. He may accept and overlook these red flags, thinking they’re normal.
3. Red Flags and Ignorance: As they enter the relationship, the woman displays red flags due to her unresolved issues, while the man chooses to ignore these red flags. This sets the stage for future conflicts.
4. Emotional Triggers and Attacks: When the man triggers the woman’s past trauma, she reacts strongly and attacks him emotionally. His response is typically to try to fix the issue and keep the peace, but his failure to understand the root of her issue only deepens her disrespect for him.
5. Communication Breakdown: A key problem arises when the woman doesn’t communicate her true issues, expecting the man to figure it out on his own. His inability to do so leads to repeated arguments and growing resentment on both sides.
6. Escalating Disrespect: As communication continues to fail, the respect in the relationship erodes. The woman becomes unruly and the man, seeking to maintain harmony, compromises without addressing the underlying problems.
7. Cycle of Trauma: Eventually, the relationship collapses, with both partners parting ways. Unfortunately, they carry their unresolved trauma—along with new emotional scars from the failed relationship—into future relationships, thus continuing the cycle of dysfunction and emotional damage.

This pattern of unresolved trauma and poor communication leads to repeated breakdowns in relationships, affecting both individuals’ ability to form healthy connections in the future.