The Job Search Has Changed I keep hearing from people who have sent one hundred, two hundred, and sometimes even more applications and still cannot understand why nobody is calling. After enough rejection or silence, a person naturally begins thinking something must be wrong with them. Maybe they are too old, too experienced, underqualified, overqualified,
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The First Reaction Is Usually Emotional If my boss comes to me and says, “It has been brought to my attention that you did X, Y, and Z,” my first instinct may be to defend myself immediately. That reaction is human because nobody likes being accused of something they believe they did not do. The
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We Are Living in the Age of the Image We live in a time when somebody can spend money to look successful without actually being financially secure. People can rent luxury cars, borrow designer clothes, pose inside somebody else’s mansion, and photograph themselves in places they could never afford to live. Somebody can take fifty
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The Mind Can Get Stuck One of the most important things I have learned about the mind is that thinking about a problem is not always the same as solving it. Sometimes we convince ourselves that if we keep turning something over in our heads, eventually we will find the answer. We replay what happened,
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The Question Michael’s Story Leaves With Me Michael Jackson’s story makes me sit with a hard question about love, sacrifice, ambition, and the price people sometimes pay for greatness. What if love is not proven only by how softly we hold somebody, but also by what we are willing to sacrifice for their future? That
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A Powerful Argument, but the Facts Matter When I first heard the argument about the government’s proposed Anti-Weaponization Fund, I understood immediately why somebody would connect it to the larger conversation about reparations. In May 2026, the Justice Department announced a proposed $1.776 billion fund as part of the settlement of President Donald Trump’s lawsuit
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What Is the Purpose of a Relationship? Somebody once asked a question that sounds simple but gets deeper the longer I sit with it: what am I supposed to get out of being in a relationship? I understand why somebody would ask that, especially if relationships have brought more confusion than comfort. A healthy relationship
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Everybody Does Not Need My Whole Story One lesson life has taught me is that everybody I meet does not automatically deserve access to my entire history. When I enter a new environment, I do not have to walk through the door carrying my résumé, accomplishments, disappointments, family business, and old wounds in my hands.
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The Question Needs a Different Beginning When I hear somebody ask why white people and East Asians fundamentally dislike Black people, the first thing I have to challenge is the word fundamentally. No race of people is naturally programmed to dislike another race. White people are not born disliking Black people, East Asian people are
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When I Heard There Were African Popes When I first heard somebody say that three African men once led the Catholic Church, I had to stop and think about what I had been taught about early Christianity. Most images of early Christianity make the faith appear almost entirely European, as if it moved directly from
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