When Suspicion Takes Over the Relationship I have learned that sometimes people become afraid you are going to do exactly what they are already doing to you. At first, their questions may sound innocent enough because everybody in a relationship needs reassurance from time to time. They ask about an old girlfriend, a coworker, a
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Learning the Difference Between Approval and Purpose The older I get, the less I care about measuring my life by how many people agree with me or applaud what I have to say. There was probably a time when approval carried more weight because most of us enjoy knowing that people appreciate what we are
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The Story Behind the Word “Spirits” I have heard liquor called “spirits” for as long as I can remember, and somebody eventually gave that old word a much darker explanation. The claim was that alcohol is called spirits because drinking allows spiritual beings to enter a person’s body and temporarily take control. That explanation can
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Learning When Somebody Does Not Want to Rock With You The older I get, the more I understand that one of life’s hardest lessons is knowing when to stop chasing somebody who does not want to be caught. When a woman shows a man that she is not interested, sometimes his pride tells him to
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What Makes Somebody Catch Our Eye I have always found it interesting how one person can walk into a room and immediately catch somebody’s attention while another person barely gets noticed. Attraction can feel mysterious because we do not always consciously understand what made us look twice. Sometimes it is somebody’s face, sometimes their body,
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Love Can Make Us Feel Vulnerable I understand the idea that when a man truly loves a woman, he becomes more aware of what he could lose. Love has a way of making even a confident person feel vulnerable because somebody else suddenly matters enough to hurt you. A man may know how other men
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Grown Folks Ought to Tell the Truth At a certain age, I believe we ought to know enough about ourselves to stop selling people a version of us that does not exist. We are too grown to be lying about what we want, what we can give, and what we know we are not prepared
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The Argument Is Not Always the Real Argument The older I get, the more I realize that people are not always arguing about what they claim they are arguing about. The disagreement may start over politics, dirty dishes, money, somebody leaving the milk out, or something said on the evening news. Before long, two people
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Everybody Is Not Going to Be Your Cup of Tea One thing life has taught me is that I am not going to like everybody I meet, and everybody I meet is not going to like me. That is just part of being human, and pretending otherwise does not make much sense to me. Sometimes
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The Love Hidden in Consideration The older I get, the more I believe one of the highest forms of love is consideration. Sacrifice might rank a little higher, but that is a conversation for another day. I am talking about those small moments when somebody shows you that you crossed their mind without asking for
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