When the Body Asks for Something Different There comes a time when the body begins asking us to pay attention in ways we may have ignored when we were younger. For much of life, we are encouraged to keep moving, push harder, accomplish more, and somehow find the energy to do it all again tomorrow.
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What It Means to Be Mentally Free “No one is free whose mind is not like a door with a double-hinge swinging outward to release their own ideas, and inward to receive the worthy thoughts of others.” — Ralph M. Lewis gives us a powerful definition of freedom that goes far beyond politics, laws, or
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We Were Never Designed to Feel Nothing There is a difference between having emotions and allowing emotions to hijack the whole operation. I hear people say they want to become less emotional because they believe emotion makes them weak or irrational. I understand what they mean, especially when they are thinking about decisions they made
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What Is the Purpose of a Relationship? Somebody once asked a question that sounds simple but gets deeper the longer I sit with it: what am I supposed to get out of being in a relationship? I understand why somebody would ask that, especially if relationships have brought more confusion than comfort. A healthy relationship
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The Fish Does Not Need Swimming Lessons I heard somebody say that God created fish to swim, and a fish does not need swimming lessons because the ability is already inside it. That simple thought stayed with me because there is something beautiful about creation functioning according to its nature. A fish enters the water
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The Question That Sounds Simple There is a question that sounds simple until someone asks me to answer it without mentioning the usual things about my life. I cannot use my name, job, relationships, accomplishments, or even my personality to explain who I am. Who am I? Most of us answer by describing what we
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The Feelings We Learn to Hide Throughout my life, I have learned that feelings do not always arrive when it is convenient for me to deal with them. Pain can show up when I have responsibilities waiting, anger can rise when I need to remain composed, and grief can appear when everybody expects me to
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The Value of Stepping Away I have come to appreciate the idea that sometimes the most productive thing a person can do is stop working for a moment and think. That sounds almost backwards in a culture that rewards movement, speed, and constant availability. We are taught to answer the email, return the call, finish
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The Part of My Story You Never Heard Sometimes people decide I became the villain because they only saw the part where I walked away. They saw the distance, the silence, the boundaries, and the version of me that stopped showing up the way I used to. What they did not hear were the conversations
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What Do We Mean When We Say It Did Not Work? When we do not get the result we wanted, we often assume that what we tried did not work. A man approaches a woman directly, tells her he is interested, and she turns him down. He walks away saying being direct did not work.
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