Discovering the Right Help at the Right TimeThe most game-changing work I’ve ever done to improve my relationship came from a couple named Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. They wrote a book called Getting the Love You Want, which was really popular in the 1990s and early 2000s. I had never heard of it […]
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The Hidden Roots of Biblical IdentityMany people grow up seeing Bible characters pictured with white skin and straight hair, but history tells a different story. The original people in the Bible were Afro-Asiatic, with wooly hair and dark skin, living in Africa and the Levant—not Europe. These were real people from real places, and their
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Why Avoiding Conflict Is Still ParticipationSomeone once asked me, “What’s the harm in avoiding conflict if it helps keep the peace?” At first, it sounds like a smart way to protect your peace, but avoiding conflict doesn’t mean you’re not involved. It just means you’re participating in a quieter, more harmful way. You may not
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The Hypocrisy of ExclusionThere’s a deep contradiction in the way some people treat Black folks today. When we were enslaved, they had no problem with us being right in their homes—cooking their food, raising their children, even warming their beds. But now, in freedom, many of those same kinds of people don’t want us anywhere
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What Project 2025 Is Really AboutProject 2025 may seem like it’s just about cutting government agencies or replacing civil servants, but it goes much deeper. It’s about reshaping how the entire federal government works by mixing religion—specifically Christian nationalism—into public policy. This plan isn’t just trying to make government smaller; it’s trying to make it
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Understanding Racism as a SystemRacism isn’t just about one person disliking another—it’s a system. It works like a team, where every player is part of something bigger than themselves. For example, someone can’t just say they’re a member of the Cleveland Browns without being part of the actual team and the organization behind it. In
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Doing Great Work Isn’t EnoughMany people believe that if they just work hard and do great work, they’ll be rewarded with promotions or recognition. While effort is important, it’s not the only thing that gets you ahead. Promotions often come from being seen and known by the right people. That means you have to make
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The Conflict Between Fear and TruthMany people stay in unhealthy relationships because they’re afraid of being alone. They may tell themselves that leaving will feel like abandonment. But the truth is, when you stay in something that hurts you, you’re already abandoning yourself. You’re turning away from your own needs, ignoring what your body and
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Understanding Our Response to ChangeChange is something that shows up in every part of life—school, friendships, family, or even the way we see ourselves. When it happens, we often react by tightening up, even without realizing it. That tension can show up as mood swings, stress, or feeling unsure about the future. It’s a natural
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Understanding Each Stage of LifeIn many communities, especially in Black culture, we see life in stages that come with names and roles. From ages 8 to 14, we call that the “look” stage. That’s when kids are still growing up, watching how older people act, learning from what they see. They may not say much,
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