Here we are conveying the message that it’s perfectly acceptable to set boundaries and choose to distance yourself from people who have hurt you, whether intentionally or unintentionally, regardless of their importance in your life. You have the right to make decisions that prioritize your well-being without feeling guilty or needing to justify yourself.

Here are the key points:

1. Self-Respect and Boundaries: You don’t owe repeated chances to someone who has hurt you. It’s okay to decide that their actions have shown you enough to determine that continuing a relationship with them is not in your best interest.
2. Personal Choice: Choosing to distance yourself from someone who has consistently disregarded your feelings is a valid choice. This is not selfish or unforgiving; it’s an exercise of your right to protect your own well-being.
3. Right to Decide: Just as others have the right to make choices that might not align with your desires, you have the same right to make decisions for yourself, even if it means ending a relationship or leaving a situation that no longer serves you.
4. Communicating Boundaries: If you struggle to find the words to express your decision, we offer a suggestion for how to communicate it clearly and respectfully. This involves acknowledging the impact of the other person’s choices on your perspective and stating your decision to move in a different direction.
5. No Need for Justification: You don’t need to explain or justify your decision, nor do you need to attempt to mend the relationship if you believe it is not in your best interest.

The overall message is about empowerment and self-respect, emphasizing that your well-being and choices are valid and important, and you should not feel pressured to maintain relationships that are harmful to you.

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