African American Facts Not Taught in Public Schools

African American History

Breakdown:

  1. Initial Motivation for Change
    • A man often doesn’t change while he’s in a relationship but only after losing someone significant.
    • His motivation to change arises from the pain of losing “the best thing” that happened to him.
  2. The Wrong Man Adds Chaos, Not Peace
    • If a man disrupts your peace, he isn’t the right partner for you.
    • A relationship should be about addition—a man should uplift you, not subtract from your happiness or clarity.
  3. Maintaining Your Own Identity
    • Before meeting him, you knew who you were and had your life in order.
    • If his presence leads to stress, confusion, or frustration, that’s a sign of misalignment.
  4. The Illusion of Changing a Man
    • Thinking you can change a toxic man is misleading and draining.
    • Even if change happens, it’s often for someone else—another woman benefits from the work you invested in his growth.
  5. Becoming a Lesson, Not His Love
    • Trying to change a man can lead to heartache and disappointment.
    • You risk becoming the “lesson” in his life instead of his lasting love.
    • Avoid allowing the process to break your spirit or sense of self-worth.
  6. The Futility of Healing Toxic Men
    • Healing or “fixing” toxic men is not your responsibility.
    • It’s dangerous to believe that your love will be special enough to motivate someone to change.
  7. Sustainable Change Comes from Within
    • True change only happens when a man is self-motivated by his own discipline, self-worth, and self-esteem—not from external influences.
    • The ideal partner is one who seeks to improve for himself, not in response to a woman’s efforts.
  8. The Half-Truth of Change for the Right Woman
    • The notion that a man changes for the right woman is only partly true.
    • In reality, change typically happens after the relationship ends, with the next person benefiting from that change.

Conclusion

  • A healthy relationship begins with two people who are whole and motivated on their own.
  • A man who truly values growth won’t need someone else to inspire it—his sense of self-worth will guide him toward becoming the best version of himself.