Breakdown: A common mistake many women make in relationships is treating men based on their potential, rather than how they actually reciprocate in the relationship. This tendency to go above and beyond for a man in the hopes that he will eventually step up often leads to frustration and disappointment when the effort isn’t matched.

Women may find themselves in situations where they’re willing to give their all, hoping the man will see their value and commit. But when push comes to shove, the same man may not be dependable. He might not be there when she needs help with serious life challenges—like car trouble, moving, or financial assistance—yet he still has full access to her emotionally, physically, and sexually.

This dynamic raises important questions: Why should a man have an “all-access pass” when he isn’t reliable for the things that really matter? The woman realizes this imbalance when she steps back and assesses the lack of support, which can even lead to a loss of attraction or respect for the man.

The takeaway is clear: Relationships should be built on mutual care and responsibility. If someone isn’t reciprocating in meaningful ways, it’s time to reconsider the dynamic. Women need to stop offering their full commitment to someone who won’t show up when it matters. If the support and effort aren’t mutual, then neither should be the benefits.