Breakdown:
- Be Pleasant Only When You Feel Pleasant:
- It’s essential to display genuine emotions. If you’re not enjoying her company or her actions, let that show. Avoid pretending or faking emotions to keep things smooth.
- Your actions should reflect your feelings. If she’s doing something that bothers you, reciprocate accordingly—without pretending to like it.
- Be Agreeable Only When You Actually Agree:
- Stand your ground when necessary. If she’s wrong or out of line, let her know without hesitation. There’s no need to argue excessively; simply make your point and, if necessary, walk away.
- Don’t compromise your beliefs just to avoid conflict.
- Be Cheerful Only When You’re Truly in a Good Mood:
- It’s important to express how you truly feel. Men are often taught to suppress their emotions, but that doesn’t serve anyone in the long run.
- Don’t hide your irritation or anger—if you’re upset, express it in a healthy way rather than bottling it up.
- Serve Those Who Serve You:
- Your energy and effort should be reciprocated. If she isn’t doing anything to benefit or support you, don’t go out of your way to accommodate her.
- Remember, you’re the prize in the relationship, and your effort and attention should be earned, not given out of a sense of obligation.
- Handle Disrespect by Setting Boundaries:
- If she’s out of line, don’t reward her behavior by continuing to do things for her. Correct the behavior by making it clear it’s unacceptable, and don’t offer rewards for her getting back in line.
- If the negative behavior repeats, walk away—showing that you value yourself and won’t tolerate disrespect.
Conclusion: Balancing niceness with masculinity means being authentic, assertive, and valuing yourself in relationships. Express how you feel honestly, stand your ground when necessary, and ensure that effort and respect are mutual. If she’s not aligning with these standards, set boundaries and walk away when needed.