Breakdown:
- Understanding the Current Dynamic: In today’s world, women often receive significantly more attention and options compared to men, regardless of the man’s social status, popularity, or even fame. This is especially true for attractive women who naturally attract more attention than men, even those with high social standing.
- High-Interest Women Will Approach First: Women who are genuinely interested in you will find ways to initiate contact. Whether it’s by following you on social media, sending a friend to speak on their behalf at a social gathering, or simply starting a conversation, these women will make the first move. This behavior indicates they are already choosing you, which naturally satisfies their innate desire for a partner who meets their hypergamous tendencies (seeking a partner of equal or higher status).
- The Problem with Approaching: When a man approaches a woman first, he potentially sacrifices some of the leverage or control in the relationship dynamic. By doing so, it can lead to a shift where the woman may no longer see the man as someone of high value, leading to potential manipulation or a loss of interest. Essentially, approaching diminishes the man’s perceived status in the woman’s eyes.
- Maintaining Leverage and Attraction: Women who choose a man first feel that their hypergamy is satisfied, meaning they believe they’ve found someone of equal or higher value. By allowing a woman to approach you, you maintain a sense of mystery and intrigue, which can help keep her interest piqued.
- The Cheat Code – Self-Improvement: The key to being the type of man who is pursued lies in relentless self-improvement. By working on yourself—whether it’s your physical health, financial success, emotional intelligence, or overall confidence—you become a more attractive option. This, in turn, increases the chances that women will approach you first, giving you the upper hand in the relationship dynamic.
In summary, this approach revolves around positioning yourself as a man of high value, allowing women to choose you, thus maintaining attraction and avoiding unnecessary games.