Meme Response: A meme suggesting that friendships shouldn’t end over political differences sparked a personal response.
Personal Perspective: For me, it’s not about the politicians themselves, but the policies and actions they represent.
The Personal Impact of Policies
Livelihood and Values: Political policies affect my life, my children, my grandchildren, and those I care about deeply.
Historical Racism: As a biracial woman, Trump’s long history of racist actions and comments makes it impossible for me to be friends with his supporters.
Example of Racism: Trump’s refusal to acknowledge the innocence of the Central Park 5, despite clear evidence, highlights his enduring racist attitudes.
LGBTQ+ Rights and Personal Connections
Family Members: I have gay and trans family members, and Trump’s policies threaten their rights and safety.
Boundary Setting: Supporting someone who aims to harm my loved ones means you cannot be my friend. It’s about protecting my family and our values.
Unconditional Love and Acceptance
Seeing the Whole Person: True acceptance means acknowledging all aspects of a person, including those that may cause discomfort.
Conditional Love: Claiming not to see color or sexual orientation means you only accept parts of people, which is not true love.
Personal Standards: I have the right to decide if your version of love and acceptance is enough for me, and often, it isn’t.
Dealing with Family Members
Approach to Conversations: When discussing with family members who support Trump, avoid name-calling to keep them engaged.
Biblical Standards: Use Galatians 5:22-23 (the Fruits of the Spirit) to challenge the idea that Trump embodies Christian values.
Fruits of the Spirit: Ask supporters to identify where Trump’s actions reflect love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, as these traits are not evident in his behavior.
Conclusion
Setting Boundaries: It’s not about disliking someone for their political views; it’s about protecting myself and my loved ones from harmful ideologies.
Respectful Distance: We can remain respectful acquaintances, but true friendship requires alignment on fundamental values of respect, love, and protection for all.